If A Man Wants You…

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I received this years ago I think it’s great advice. Print it & read it every day if you must ladies!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.


If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.
You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.


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  • sooooo real

  • So why my man got time for other things like family, friends, just doing other things. I try to call him he is always doing something. I do not know what to do :(

    • Nickie, the bible tells us that where a man’s heart is, there shall his treasure be also.  Our treasures include our time, talent, and anything we deem valuable (ie., money).  If he does not spend his time with you, his heart is not with you; meaning he does not love you.  As hard as it might be, guard your heart and move on.
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      • Amen sista, I wholeheartly agree!

  • this is lovely

  • I’m glad I was able to find this, it’s very useful ladies. We all know this; but to see it written down, can help me, you and someone else!

  • This is the gospel for all women to live by, with this insight there should be more healthy relationships/marriages.After moving from California to Georgia, I notice most women are very subserviate minded to men here, and the men expect this behavior.Perhaps this was what grandma did back in the day,but I’m not cut from that mold. My sisters /brothers that reside here have the same we bump heads in disagreeing… I’ve said to them “I’m not in the catering business, I’m in the sharing business”.Relationships takes partners on equal ground, giving and taking together.I guess that’s why their marriages did’nt survive.I’ll be sure to share this with them. Thanks.

  • Osborne61

    This is nice.  Like the line, “All men are not dogs”. Sometime men see a woman they like but then to women he’s not Mr. Right.   

  • Where can I get this book?

  • b.williams

    You are still young and it does not reflect in your writing. You go girl.I watch you and your sister , even the re-runs.I will print this for my daughters and myself, and some girlfriends

  • Lovelymichelle711

    i read this and cried, i just broke up with my x man last night because of physcial and verbal abuse. this was truly an eye opener, also expiring to be a better mother daughter for my family. i want to heal and always be a tru believer in real love, no matter what ive been thru i have to stay strong.

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  • Marcelle Clarke

    Tis is so tight,love it!!!

  • Latrisajoiner

    So true!!!

  • This is very good advice. 

  • Lady J “The Urban Princess”

    I like this. You are so right. Im all for self happiness now after 18yrs of mysery portrayed as love. Im lonely as a mothereffer but that’s ok too! I refuse to allow foolishness in my life. So if that means no friends, family or manly connections, So be it. It’s just me and mines and we are happier now then ever before. The best is yet to

  • This is amazingly true, though most often taken for granted.

  • PaulaP

    He has time for everyone and everything else, always has something to do!! This is good reading ladies!!

  • AWESOME!!!

  • I know a lot of gay men that could use this same advice! :-)

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